Just wondering as i feel each platform has its pros and cons but toxic-ness seems to be everywhere? is there a way to avoid most of toxic online? or is that not possible?
R/knitting was really nice on Reddit before the migration a couple years ago. Idk how it is now. But it was always so supportive and encouraging.
This one.
do you mean this instance? lemmy? or the fediverse in general?
This post and only this post.
I quite like HackerNews
I don’t know if I could say Lemmy as a whole, but if you take a few seconds to block toxicity when you see it, you’ll eventually have a pretty sterile environment.

It’s made the experience so much better with the free tagging. A little bit of time labeling trolls in bright red makes it pretty clear that only a few are the problem. Then you find out they mod the subreddit they spam to, and ban you for down voting their posts. The trash takes itself out.
Then you find out they mod the subreddit they spam to,
The big green M never clued you in?
It doesn’t display on this client on All I don’t think. If I’m looking at the community then yes, but not in the aggregated feed, unless I’m doing it wrong
Give me a second to engage my telepathy to find out what client you’re using…
…did it work?
This place seems pretty good so far.
It isn’t.
Why do you say so? There are few trolls, and only a few overzealous and careless mods. It’s easy to get the good and avoid the bad.
It can be a bit of a pressure cooker of poser pseudosocialists and pretentious idealistic antagonists.
Once you filter these kids out of your feed, it gets better.
Exactly.
Hell yeah!
Cheers!
Tildes by far. At least until the admin gets pissed at you, and since he has sole control, you’re fucked. But otherwise a great place.
Furry art platforms in my experience (as long as it isn’t the Nazi furries)
Not to be confused with furry dating platforms. Yikes.
Mastodon and Lemmy
To give a non Fediverse answer (we’re awesome), of the mainstream-ish platforms I’ve found Bluesky very non-toxic-- perhaps, I dare say… not toxic enough? You’ll get really dumb takes or sloppy AI posts without a hint of pushback.
But I’m with people in these comments, I like this place most. Call outs aren’t always considerate, but at least it keeps it from being utterly stupid. Polite corrections though are a treasure. That, and Never Slop kitties.
interesting contrast of experience; I’m on a bsky with a bunch of game devs and artists, and the slop gets called out instantly.
guess it’s the company you keep.
It certainly matters on who they put in your algorithm. I get more of the basic feed of political stuff and it’s like… Gavin Newsom with AI abs or some stupid slop and liberal boomers going heart eyes, lol.
I wouldn’t mind the artists and creators more, though. It did trickle in for a bit then uh, a few nsfw popped up unblurred and for some reason saying no to that made them all stop popping up. If I really cared though I’d probably actually follow people more, lol
there’s a great bluesky starter pack for game dev and artists, one sec will try to find a link
Thanks, I’ll look through it!
I’ve been on a subscription based platform with around 30k users for about a year now and I’ve yet to see a single insult or an obnoxious user there. Personal attacks are against the rules and they’ll just kick you out without a warning. The people there are unreasonably reasonable.
I highly doubt that can be achieved on free platform except for small niche communities.
None of them.
Real life friends
I see you haven’t met my friends 😭
Then keep away from me!
Nerdfighteria of the vlogbrothers seem like a good group
Bluesky.









