It’s rude to discuss your salary at work
That’s just what your employer wants you to think so you don’t know who’s getting paid unfairly.
Yeah I agree, it’s utter BS. Just like your engagement ring is supposed to be 2 months salary, it was 2 weeks 30 years ago. Debeirs just makes the shit up.
- Money doesn’t buy happiness. YES IT DOES
- Everything happens for a reason. Yeah sure and the reasons are because of someone’s action or inaction. There is no all knowing benevolent deity effecting things in our lives.
Money buys stability, not happiness. The second you get savings you start worrying about it. The more money you get the bigger prick you seemingly become. It’s like the second you can afford a BMW the switch flips to being a public asshole. Get the high score and you get to be an absolutely miserable billionaire. Show me a truly happy billionaire whose jollies don’t come from hurting everyone around them.
No… it buys me all types of happiness.
I always say money doesn’t buy happiness, but it is a prerequisite. Starving homeless people don’t have a lot of opportunity to seek whatever makes them happy.
I’d say that people often misunderstand the “Money can’t buy happiness” thing. I think the saying should be “Money BY ITSELF can’t buy happiness.” Happiness is bought by being smart with the resources you have. There are happy poor people and miserable rich people because even though money helps, it’s not the main deciding factor as to whether or not you’ll be happy, it’s your decisions and personal mental framework.
Below a certain threshold, it is a big deciding factor. Doesn’t matter your outlook if you can’t afford to go to the doctor, or eat healthy foods.
Everyone returns to their baseline happiness 3 months after something big happens, but when you’re poor, hard things happen more often than every three months.
Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the reason is you’re stupid and make bad decisions.
HAHA yeah! And typically that is the reason more often than sometimes.
- Money doesn’t buy happiness. YES IT DOES
Actually more nuanced. It does, as long as you don’t have to worry about affordability. Over that, it only adds worries.
Dress warmly or you will catch a cold.
And
Respect your elders.
“Crime doesn’t pay”
Tell that to the companies which get a few million in fines for stealing tens of millions in wages.
Crime doesn’t pay when you’re not protected by privilege and status.
Idk man I’ve been making pretty good money out of growing weed and am not protected. Even with the occasional bust, it’s still a net plus.
Be good at what you do. No half measures.
Edit the camera was shitter than my older phone, apologies
Edit 2 for law enforcement this picture is >2 y old
Edit 3 I’d consider that like an 8/10 for my own grows
Thank you for your service.
o7
I was gonna be like “fkin Americans commenting again on me mentioning military service” since 75% of males here do it, but yeah, this one was good.
I’m proud. I was a bit hesitant, actually, about ordering a new tent, (since my last one got confiscated, again, 2nd bust in all), but with that comment, I think I’m gonna have to continue serving.
curl | bashAlso using cat to review a script before running it. Cat by default will interpret ANSI escape codes and it’s possible to overwrite a line and hide it. Use the -v or -A option with cat to show the ANSI escape codes rather than interpret them. Or use less, vi, nano.
If you worry about being a narcissist, you are not one. A narcissist would never introspect like that or care.
False. If you suspect narcissistic personality disorder, it is completely valid and you probably need to research the vulnerable side of it or the covert side of it.
Grandiose is the one with an inflated-ego, the famous one, and the DSM-5 describes mostly the grandiose narcissist. Vulnerable is the one where you feel like a misunderstood outcast or a victim of others, maybe even like a “stupid piece of shit” (quoting Bojack Horseman) that possibly deserved your hardships in life.
People with NPD or NPD traits can oscillate between different levels of these two presentations throughout their lives.
Overt is when you show that in ‘public’ (either grandiose or vulnerable). Covert is when nobody knows or can confirm you feel this way (either grandiose or vulnerable), it’s more of a secret.
In recent years, I’ve met people with undiagnosed NPD later confirmed and a person with diagnosed BPD with not enough narcissistic traits for a diagnosis, but some important ones there. That’s only to exemplify that it is not uncommon. I’m glad they were curious and open.
It’s crazy to think that a whole diagnostic category and clinical spectrum is in the shadows because of that myth: “you wouldn’t be thinking about it”. Of course you would, person receiving that “advice”, you are not an idiot and I’m sure you are noticing something about yourself. You deserve to know if it’s NPD or some other thing, and to get help and to feel better about your life.
Old & busted: do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
New hotness: do unto others as they would have you do unto them.
New hotness: do unto others as they would have you do unto them.
Yes. And if you both enjoyed it, be sure to do it again, sometime.
Use AI.
“Work hard and you will be rewarded.”
With more work.
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Someone with your work ethic should be rewarded with increased compensation. Typically, however, that reward is delivered by taking a new job with a higher pay. Help yourself and go find a new job.
You’ve gotten a single 25 cent raise in 3.5 years? Jesus fucking christ. I don’t care if you did the bare minimum not to get fired, you deserve more than that. You are making less today than you did when you got hired factoring in inflation. And gesticulates wildly at everything.
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Don’t they mean 0.25%? Though yea still…
“If you don’t profit from it, someone else will, so you might as well get yours.”
Don’t even get me started on how toxic and self-centered this is…
“Get a job doing something you live doing.” Only if you want to learn to hate something you loved. Doing anything as work builds resentment, you’re better off finding something you can tolerate. Save the stuff you love for hobbies or as a last resort your own business, not working for anyone else.
Get a job doing something you like doing.
I liked being in a van all day a lot more than I liked being inside all day.
Even when the weather was terrible, it’s better than rebreathing the same stale air for eight hours.
I love my work, but I wouldn’t do it for free.
I do things I love for free as hobbies.
Doing work I didn’t love would mean a huge percentage of my time would be spent doing something I don’t love.
the secret to “doing what you love” for work is to have a solid passive income stream established beforehand. this takes alot of the stress of failure/eaking out maximum profit out of the equation.
once you make more $ than you really need to spend, you can work as little/many hours at whatever type of job you want.
rich people are rich because somewhere down the line their parents bought/passed down dividend paying stock (or they got lucky themselves/soldout a startup for some etc.). once you bring in 6 figs in passive income you can pretty much do whatever the fuck you want as long as you don’t try to keep appearances with the super-rich.
that is what all those “i weave baskets and my partner rehabilitates wild dolphins for a living, watch us shop for a 2-3 million $ house”-shows quietly never touch on.
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Better advice would be to find a job that is enjoyable.
My work is still work, but as jobs go it’s fucking awesome … it’s not what I love, but there’s lots of variety, I have to use my head and body, and it’s legit so I don’t have to worry about being arrested or catching an STD or whatever.
For me I think growing up constantly told “you’re so smart, you’ll figure it all out” was more detrimental than helpful. It led me to believe I’d cruise through life pretty easily. I’m happy with where life’s taken me and the point I’m at now but I could’ve gotten there a lot faster if I would’ve applied myself more. Just because a kid is into computers doesn’t mean they’ll be some sort of genius.
I can’t stand this one. Like, yes, I can figure out a lot of things for myself. But if I’m asking someone for help, it’s because my own resourcefulness has reached its limit and in this situation, I need assistance from others. That is, if I could figure out a solution on my own, I would’ve done so. The whole point of bringing up the issue was an attempt to get help for it.
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. Your silence in the face of injustice is what enables abuse.
Yes! All that civility and decorum training. I’ll add to yours “Don’t speak ill of the dead.”
Stops people from learning about intergenerational trauma and fascists/terrorists in the family. Sure, my grandad was wildly abusive to his daughters and disgustingly racist about black people in Nova Scotia, Canada (the ones in Jamaica are fine btw). But he’s dead now so “we don’t talk about that.” Totes cool to mention his army medals tho.
Yeah and now people cant handle a reality check, and I’m the asshole for giving one rather than reflecting on what they did wrong
“Blood is thicker than water” meaning family is more important than chosen relationships.
And before any smartypants claims it used to mean something else, there is no evidence of that.
its such dumb phrase too. “blood is thicker than water” well no way, it is?! And why is water representing the chosen relationships here and why is the thickness the implied positive thing here? You know what is thicker than blood? Porridge. No idea what that implies though. If you need someone to explain the meaning of saying to get it, then its not very good saying imo.
That’s something people say cause they think it makes them sound smart. Like people who say the Hunger Games is just Battle Royale, while ignorant of the long history of stories about death tournaments
Irrespective if the meaning has been reversed over the years.
What most people miss about this saying is… IT GOES BOTH WAYS.
If someone mistreats you and uses their blood relationship to you as an excuse, then that is not a member of your family. Family supports and goes through things together. Friends can become family. At this stage of my life, I have cut off my entire blood relations due to their toxic and stupid behavior. My family is the woman I married, my kids, and a few choice friends.
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“Don’t care what other people think about you”
Sounds like permission to be an asshole.
I understand what it’s trying to say, but assholes don’t mind borrowing the mantra.
I read a book a while back called “The Courage to be Disliked”. That title could be used for some manosphere nonsense but it was instead an overall positive book about determining your self-worth based on your own honest evaluation of yourself, with the goal of improving things that you otherwise make excuses for. It was helpful to me as someone who’s been a people pleaser with low confidence. Hearing that mantra reminds me of it. I think it’s certainly not universally applicable, but it can be good advice for the right person.
seeking other people’s approval constantly also makes you an asshole
I’m with you on this one, OP. Selfish, litter-dropping, swearing-in-front-of-kids, loud-music-playing motherfuckers don’t care what other people think and they accelerate the erosion of community. Community is how we defend each other from the inevitable shit that is heading our way.
I get what you’re trying to share, which makes a lot of sense, but now reframe it in a different context (just an hypothesis, obviously not an affirmation) : you live surrounded by assholes (say, racists ones), should you mind what they think about you (not being a racist)?
if you care what people think about you, you become a masked compliant normie
(masked as in masking autism/adhd/etc and ICE)
