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  • Regardless what’s going on with your friend you posted the same long screed in 6 places.

    I’m gonna be real enough with you to say that behavior is screaming a big need for external validation. Or at the least, a marker for high personal drama. In my experience, those friends will wear out my social battery real quick and “it’s too much to hang out with me” is exactly how those folks can feel.

    I honestly wish the best for you, your friend, and any friendship y’all manage between you. Just don’t forget to monitor the emotional load that you’re asking folks around you to carry.







  • What you’re describing sounds like a difference in mate value. It’s a combination of any desirable traits like looks, fertility, resources, or anything else. We might spot an apparent difference in two mate values, but the US doesn’t have many rules or norms around mismatched pairs. Other cultures might though, with rules around bride price and such.

    Most animals are pretty good about assessing their own mate value from physical and social signaling and tend settle into matched pairs more often than not. There are some cool social experiments that repeatedly prove this out, but I don’t have any links handy.




  • I appreciate the example and I think I see your point. I agree with the underlying logic, in general, but applying it to the N in NPD seems an over extension.

    Dictionary definitions for the two terms, as records of common usage, are notably different. Autism refers solely to the condition so your example sentence would be an inappropriate use. Acceptable and understandable in the language, but an uncommon application of the word. On the other hand, narcissism is used for general egoism and self importance first and for NPD second.

    This of course doesn’t invalidate your feelings when hearing the word or desire to protect others from the same, but maybe this can offer some comfort if the most common usage is not intended or even understood as a slur or even a reference to folks with NPD.


  • Serious question: isn’t the word separate from the disorder though?

    We can describe people doing antisocial, paranoid, or dependent things even when they don’t have the associated personality disorders. We can also describe someone generally as antisocial or paranoid if they display those traits regularly, regardless of any underlying diagnosis. Is it different with NPD?