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I find the only compliments dudes share are when you have the same ‘thing’ as them. Same shirt, same vehicle… same… no… nope. thats all of them.

So true!

When I bought my truck I said, “If you keep talking, I will buy it from somoene else. Let me drive and I will make my decision.”

You know, in true autistic fashion.

Not really confused by it, but I find it suspicious by default. Most of the time, I just say thank you to politely accept it.

Half the time, I tend to find that people are trying to just butter me up to get something out of me. Disingenuity is very grating on my sensibilities and it can lower my opinion of people who tend to behave in that way.

I used to take it personally, like that person thinks I’m dumb enough to buy into their petty manipulation. Now I understand that lots of people just carelessly, all-around, do this to score points they can cash in on later. I just pretend I don’t notice and say thank you anyway; I don’t think I could offer anything but a sincere compliment, myself.

Yeah, when people notice where you are putting your efforts. That’s really all that matters for the feel-good aspect of compliments.

Women filter things through their emotions and feelings.

Uh, that’s everyone. Its very unusual to not be doing that, and it takes a lot of practice and patience to hold space for your emotions to pass and to understand how they affect your reasonability and to compensate for that in your judgements.

Like for example, after reading this opening sentence of your comment, it is difficult for me to not disqualify the rest of what you are saying as ignorant before I actually read it. I have to observe my emotion and then take a read after that feeling begins to ebb.

And so after pausing and reading the rest of your comment, I see you as someone who rationalizes their feelings to frame a narrative.

Womanish, as referred, in your world view. Hypocritical and lacking self-awareness.

If you don’t have the permission and money for expensive renovations, then high quality earplugs is the answer. I have gone through a lot of different earplug products because of the discomfort of wearing them.

These 3M ones, I can wear for 12 hours straight, no problems. https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B000I7LH8Y

If you do want to get serious and do the work, base your noise-reduction system around this product: https://sonopan.com/

Best way to do this sort of thing is to be short and sweet.

“I’m really interested in this work and felt my first interview didn’t hit the mark. Would you be willing to give me another chance to show my capabilities?”

I think it says everything you need to without seeming over-eager or desperate.

Neurotypical people prioritize vibes over most things socially… and you’re disabled in vibe detection and vibe projection.

If you want to level up your career, you need to practice interviewing and find somewhere else that will hire you… In my experience, internal career growth happens for people who get along well with the social end of things. I may suck at that, but I learned to handle the brief intensity of masking well for an interview.

Best thing to do is try to move around every couple years until you find a job where you can just focus on the work and disregard the social nonsense.

6. AI company hijacks your processes, trade secrets, and market to offer the same thing for cheaper than you can. Raises rates for competitors to cover its own token use and simultaneously drive the others out of business.

Failing in Ukraine… so Russia will now also provoke a heavily armed NATO country, and neighbour to Ukraine: Poland.

No. Serious doubt this is real.

It was a pretty big shift for me when I realized that a big part of my mood was tied to my sensory load. Using tools like earplugs or shades makes life go better when my nervous system decides to flare up and make everything loud, bright and annoying.

OK, yeah I will give these a shot. I really don’t like the disposable factor of the earplugs, but the 3M ones I likes are the only ones that arent uncomfortable and fit well. If i can find a reusable that does the same job, I’d like that.

I fricken loved this aspect of the COVID times. People were so much more friendly toward me by default when we all wore masks.

These are the things that help me: Earplugs. I prefer these ones https://www.amazon.ca/3M-Non-corded-Disposable-Earplugs-Pairs/dp/B000I7LH8Y but you might have some luck with Loops as well. I would like those except they don’t fit one of my ears very well.

Light-filtering Glasses. Sunglasses are good for outdooes, but I also have a pair of FL-41 coated glasses. They are meant for migraine sufferers, but I swear they make processing easier when I wear them. https://www.theraspecs.com/fl-41-glasses/

Stop trying to live your life according to the standard, accepted template. It’s really important to decide what you value in life and reject the judgments of others. You have to figure out how to be okay with, or enjoy, being outcast. It’s not so bad once you figure that out. https://www.amazon.ca/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happiness/dp/1668069539

Can you give an example? I don’t quite understand.

You need to care about how others are feeling. Understanding what it is they are feeling and why, using mainly non-verbal cues, is the hard part.

Fuck what others think, though. You really don’t wanna get wrapped up in that.

I’ve gotten a lot better with this by understanding that I don’t always need to share (or even have) an opinion on things. In fact, actively choosing not to have an opinion on the things that don’t need one is pretty healthy.

It’s so much easier to just shrug than make up a lie of any kind.

Crank the dial up to 11 and then break it off trying to go past that.