• BudgetBandit@sh.itjust.works
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    13 days ago

    Great, you’re nice. Congratz on doing the absolute bare minimum.

    Any hobbies she’s interested in as well? Or interesting hobbies in general? Any skill you have other than dislocating your shoulder, like changing the breaks on your car? Are you a Sub and want a Dom but she’s a Sub as well? Are you radiating any sexual energy? Heck some women find tax evasion as sexy as a sixpack.

  • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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    12 days ago

    Actual nice guy here. I get lots of chances. I just don’t act on most of them because I’m a fucking pussy.

    • Track_Shovel@slrpnk.netOPEnglish
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      12 days ago

      A self-aware nice guy!

      Don’t be so hard on yourself. The negative self talk really doesn’t help. You know this already, but probably don’t know how to stop it.

      Some framing that might help: you are human. You’re allowed to make mistakes. Just because you’re not perfect doesn’t mean you are worthless. Your flaws are much smaller than you make them out to be, and flaws themselves are just areas you can improve in if you put your mind to it. You have a good mind, so use it to build yourself up and be the best version of yourself. No one else is watching you, really, apart from the guy looking back at you in the mirror.

      Sincerely, a recovered NiceGuy™

      • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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        12 days ago

        Oh I know. My point is the reason I’m single is because I don’t make a move on women who are or could be interested in me. It’s never been women’s fault I’m single.

  • HrabiaVulpes@lemmy.world
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    13 days ago

    The greatest suffering in life, that anyone can experience no matter who they are, is unfulfilled expectations. Girl isn’t interested in you, Weather isn’t what you want. Boss didn’t give you a rise etc.

    According to Buddhism solution is to stop expecting things of others, of life, of reality. You can only control yourself, expect of yourself if you must.

    Perhaps a bit of an exotic philosophy, but I think it applies here nicely.