I accept that I can’t understand everything all the time, especially other people and there’s actually nothing autistic about that. However there ALWAYS a reason, and it almost always has nothing to do with me. No one does things “for no reason”. They weren’t cruel for no reason, hurt people hurt people, I don’t condone it but I’m also not going to try to reverse engineer someone else’s mind because it’s impossible, idk what trauma they’ve experienced or the context of their current lives and my time here is valuable, I’m not going to waste it on someone who’s been cruel to me.
I used to fall into this trap until I realized it’s a fools errand and my autistic brain thinks running fool’s errands is illogical.
I accept that I can’t understand everything all the time, especially other people and there’s actually nothing autistic about that. However there ALWAYS a reason, and it almost always has nothing to do with me. No one does things “for no reason”. They weren’t cruel for no reason, hurt people hurt people, I don’t condone it but I’m also not going to try to reverse engineer someone else’s mind because it’s impossible, idk what trauma they’ve experienced or the context of their current lives and my time here is valuable, I’m not going to waste it on someone who’s been cruel to me.
I used to fall into this trap until I realized it’s a fools errand and my autistic brain thinks running fool’s errands is illogical.
One can be simply be cruel due to thoughtlessness. This is arguably still a reason, but there’s no intent to do something harmful.
I don’t think this excuses it, but there’s also not really anything to “reverse engineer” in the thoughts behind it.