30 something woman here, apparently I masturbate a lot compared to my friends.
I have to say “yeah once a week too” when they raise the subject ,when in fact it is multiple times a day. Husband would also do 2 times a day if he kept to his “normal” cadence. I know “whatever works for me” is right, but I’d like to compare to other people my age that aren’t my friends.
30 something guy here.
I oscillate. Usually somewhere between once every 2 days and 3x/day.
However, I’ve noticed that I feel almost no urge to masturbate when I spend a lot of time in nature - eg, on long backpacking trips. My theory is that - while there is nothing really wrong with masturbation - what is actually happening is that I am masturbating to counteract the stress of modern life. If I feel tired or lonely or anxious or sad, my brain knows it can feel happy chemicals just by beatin’ the ol’ bishop.
In this way, it feels similar to hunger. Sometimes I eat because I need food. But the vast majority of the time, I eat because I feel a compulsion to make myself feel good by eating.
So it might be worth considering if your desire of masturbate is coming from actual horniness, or a desire for some form of enjoyable escape from the moment you are in.
This is a really interesting take.
I (male, mid thirties) stopped working for money about 1.5 years ago. Been traveling, often living off-grid, outside a lot since then. Very low stress levels, computer use has gone from about 11h per day to 4h per week.
I’ve noticed a significant drop in libido. I used to masturbate maybe once every two/three days on average. Now it’s 2-4 times per month. Thought it might be me getting older, never had the idea it could be stress-related.
Interesting take, and logical. I actually get more horny if I go camping or hiking, especially if I’m not alone.