Watching porn to get relief.
I – as many other guys in this society – learned to watch porn at a young age. So I wired sexual stimulation as well as the dopamine release after orgasm to porn. For many years of my life, I would not masturbate without it.
I denied my addiction because everyone watches porn, right? Also I thought, being addicted to porn means sitting at home all day fapping and watching more and more perverse stuff. So I can’t be addicted, if I watch porn once a week, right?
Well, it took me a long time to figure all that out. The society having such a positive attitude towards porn did not help. Maybe, we all are addicted. I think it’s super fucked up. If not due to the effect it has on our brains, then at least due to the humiliation of women for capital.
An addiction is when your habit starts having significant negative impacts on your life. So, for example, if you are choosing to stay home and watch porn instead of going to work, buying groceries, go out with friends, or sleep with actual women, then yes, you have a porn addiction.
If you jerk off on a Tuesday night before you go to bed… that’s fine. Watch porn, or don’t, it doesn’t matter. If you enjoy your life more when you don’t watch porn for whatever reason, that’s fine too. You do you. But regularly watching porn isn’t an addiction any more than regularly grabbing a beer with friends on a Friday night makes you an alcoholic.
Also, yes, there is a problem of the exploitation of women in some porn. Some porn studios do take advantage of women. But women aren’t “humiliated” simply by being in porn. There is nothing wrong with a woman willingly engaging in any kind of sexual act in front of a camera, whether it’s plain ol missionary or an interracial CNC gangbang. Many women enjoy making porn and sharing it - just peruse FetLife and you can see tons of porn made completely for free, just for fun.
Like, really. Unless it’s a problem, it’s not a problem.
