The real heart of the issue is that they have such a small idea of what constitutes masculinity, that they’re utterly incapable of defining male as anything but a 20 year old getting drunk, playing sports, and breaking things. They don’t understand anything that isn’t just that. Mature masculinity, doesn’t exist in their world. Men don’t nurture, men don’t learn, men don’t grow. They don’t teach, they scream. They don’t support, they attack. They don’t create, the break. It’s a very sad world view. Aging gracefully, mentoring, collaborating, building a community, engaging in art, in self-expression, investing time and effort into people, all of that is “girl stuff.” Even having a family, what they want are trophies of their sexual conquest, not relationships. They don’t want to guide and mentor or participate in their kids lives. They want the glory. They make themselves so shallow, anyone with any depth at all is a threat.