• RavuAlHemio@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    I assume you know your brother better than us Internet strangers. The most sensitive reaction depends on how he took the news, as well as his personality:

    • if he seems worried about the diagnosis, reassure him that you will support him
    • if he’s taking the diagnosis itself in stride but worried about how your family will treat him, tell him that fundamentally nothing will change, he’s still the brother you’ve known for years and you will treat him accordingly
    • if he seems unbothered by both the diagnosis and its impact on the family dynamic, crack a joke to bond with him about this not being a big deal
    • funkless_eck@sh.itjust.worksOP
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      8 days ago

      yeah I guess I wanted to be sure there wasn’t some old cliche or chestnut I wasn’t aware of.

      like asking an actor “what have you been in that I’ve seen?” or touching a pregnant woman’s belly

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        7 days ago

        I mean it’s think the chestnut is saying, “you don’t look autistic” or just saying like, no that’s not true! Or reassuring them they’re “not like other autistics.” Basically anything that treats the diagnosis as inherently bad